16 Important Questions To Ask Yourself Before Saying Yes to That Proposal
Thinking about saying ‘yes’ to that big proposal? Hold on for just a moment. Before you take the plunge and say yes to a lifetime together, there are some key questions every woman should ask herself to make sure she’s truly ready for a forever future. Marriage isn’t just about currenty love, it’s also about knowing yourself, your partner, and your possible future together. Take a moment to reflect on these important questions before you say ‘yes’ because forever is a promise worth being absolutely sure about.
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Do Our Visions Of The Future Look Similar?
Marriage is a commitment, and whether you believe in it or not it’s a big deal for many of us. Before you say yes, ask yourself if you want the same things out of life. Do you both want children? Is travel super important to you? You don’t have to agree on everything, but having a similar vision of the future does help.
Why Do I Want To Get Married?
Is it for approval from your family and friends? Or, is it simply because you want to wear a beautiful dress with all eyes on you? Think about what marriage means to you, and the values that you and your partner may or may not share.
Is The Timing Right?
Think about everything that’s going on in your life right now, can you afford to pay for a wedding? Or do you have other stuff going on that needs to take priority? There’s no need to rush into anything if you’re not ready. You can be engaged for a while without having to book the big day.
Are We Able To Grow Together?
As time passes, people often change and relationships evolve. Being able to grow together allows you to celebrate the successes and tackle the challenges that life can throw our way. You don’t want your spouse to hold you back, nor do you want to hold them back. You should be equals, always.
Do We Handle Our Finances Efficiently?
While it’s great to treat yourselves now and again, are you able to set money aside for the future? Money (or lack thereof) can bring unwanted stress and put a strain on a relationship. Not to mention the price of weddings these days!
Does This Person Love Me At My Worst?
When you’re married and living together, chances are your partner is going to see you at your absolute worst. Ask yourself, does this person love you no matter what? Even the not-so-pleasant sides of your personality? You have to allow yourself to be truly vulnerable.
Do I Love Them At Their Worst?
The same goes for you, too. Do you love this person unconditionally at their lowest points, and on their darkest days? In sickness and in health? I know we can’t predict the future, but all we have to go on is how we feel right now, with the desire to work through the tricky stuff when it comes.
Do We Have Good Intimacy?
Intimacy is a big factor in the longevity of your marriage, and your happiness. You don’t want to settle for bad sex. While it’s not the most important aspect of a relationship, it’s one of them. Keep things romantic and exciting, regardless of how many years you are into your relationship.
Do They Lift Me Up Or Drag Me Down?
You and your partner should have each other on a pedestal. I’m not saying you should worship each other, but you should support and encourage one another with everything. You don’t want to spend the rest of your life with someone who holds you back.
Do We Support Each Other In Everything?
Whether it’s a career change or wanting to go back to college to study something new. It’s important to consider timing and finances, as well as the advice from your partner. However, you want someone to encourage you to chase your dreams. The rest, well, you’ll figure out eventually.
Are We Willing To Apologize?
Apologize when you screw up and mean it. Learn from mistakes and be willing to do better, while recognizing that you’re not going to always get it right. Relationships aren’t always a walk in the park and there are going to be times when life tests your strength. It’s how you handle these moments that matter the most.
Do I Want To Grow Old With This Person?
And finally, can you imagine yourself growing old with this person? Still flirting with each other in the retirement home, and reminiscing about the life you’ve shared? When you think of what your future looks like, are they a part of it?
Can We Communicate Effectively?
Communication is the basis of all relationships. Do you and your partner know how to listen to each other effectively? Do you know how to argue respectfully? Do you tend to communicate your emotions? You may be completely in love with each other, but if you have no communication skills, your relationship is bound to fail in the long run.
Are Our Lifestyles Compatible?
While some differences are normal, if you and your partner lead totally different lifestyles, you may want to reconsider this wedding. A good way to test this is to go live together before the wedding to check whether you can easily share a house or whether conflicts about cleaning, timing, and planning constantly arise.
Is There Trust?
Can you say you trust your partner blindly? Do you believe him even when everything else seems to suggest he’s lying? Are you ready to defend him against all accusations? Then you are probably ready to get married. If there is no trust, you will never be able to fully relax in your marriage as you will constantly fear a possible betrayal. So, say ‘yes’ only if you trust him blindly.
What About Children?
Everyone has a different opinion about becoming a parent. Some people cannot wait to settle down and start a big family. Others may never want to have kids but continue to experience life without the burden of children. This is something you need to discuss with your partner before you walk down the aisle. If your desire for children differs, the relationship may not be right. This issue is a big one that cannot be looked over.
