16 Things You Should Stop Doing Before You Hit 60

Are you close to turning forty years old? Then you’re probably excited about the decade you’re about to start! These years may be the best ones of your life. You’ve probably reached financial stability, have a nice group of friends who love you, and may even have bought a house. However, this is also the time to seriously start thinking about your physical and mental health. But how? Here are some things I quit doing after I turned forty. I strongly recommend that you do the same!

Neglecting Self-Care

In my younger years, I often put self-care on the back burner, prioritizing work and others’ needs. There was a time in my late 20s when I worked long hours at a demanding job, juggling multiple projects and constantly striving to prove myself. I skipped meals, survived on caffeine, and rarely took time off.

Weekends were spent catching up on work or fulfilling social obligations, leaving little time for relaxation or hobbies. This relentless pace eventually took a toll on my physical and mental health. Now, I prioritize taking care of myself over other obligations.

Over Committing to Social Obligations

I used to say “yes” to every social invitation, fearing I’d miss out or disappoint someone. For example, I once attended three different gatherings in a single weekend, leaving me exhausted and unable to enjoy any of them entirely. Constantly overcommitting left me drained and resentful.

Nowadays, I prioritize quality over quantity. I attend events that genuinely interest me and spend time with people who uplift me. Recently, I chose to spend a quiet evening with close friends rather than attending a large party. This decision allowed for meaningful conversations and a more fulfilling experience, leaving me refreshed rather than depleted.

Chasing Perfection

Perfectionism was once my relentless companion, causing unnecessary stress and anxiety. I’ve learned to embrace imperfections and focus on progress rather than perfection. This shift has brought more joy and satisfaction into my life.

Now, I celebrate small victories and recognize that striving for improvement is far more fulfilling than an unattainable ideal. I’ve discovered a newfound sense of peace and contentment by letting go of perfection. Embracing my flaws has allowed me to grow and thrive in ways I never thought possible.

Ignoring Financial Planning

In my 20s and 30s, financial planning seemed like a distant concern. I used to spend impulsively, often eating out and buying the latest gadgets without a second thought. However, hitting my 40s made me realize the importance of securing my financial future.

I’ve started budgeting, saving, and investing more wisely, ensuring I’m prepared for whatever lies ahead. For example, I set up an emergency fund and regularly contributed to a retirement account. These steps have provided peace of mind and control over my financial destiny.

Holding Grudges

Grudges weighed me down, occupying my mental space and energy. I remember holding a grudge against a colleague who took credit for my work, which led to sleepless nights and constant stress. This resentment affected my productivity and overall happiness, making me realize how detrimental grudges could be.

Letting go of past grievances has been liberating. I decided to have an open conversation with my colleague, which helped clear the air and mend our working relationship. Forgiving others (and myself) has allowed me to move forward with a lighter heart and a clearer mind, leading to a more positive and peaceful outlook.

Prioritizing Others Over Myself

Constantly putting others’ needs before my own left me feeling depleted. I’ve learned the significance of setting boundaries and prioritizing my well-being. Taking care of myself first makes me better equipped to support those around me.

By focusing on my needs, I’ve found a balance that allows me to be more present and effective in helping others. This self-care practice has rejuvenated my energy and spirit. Embracing this approach has improved my relationships and overall quality of life.

Avoiding Difficult Conversations

Conflict avoidance was my go-to strategy, but it often led to unresolved issues and simmering resentment. I’ve embraced the value of open, honest communication, addressing problems head-on, and fostering healthier relationships. This change has brought more clarity and mutual understanding.

By facing difficult conversations, I’ve built stronger, more transparent connections with others. It’s empowering to address conflicts directly and see positive resolutions unfold. Open dialogue has become a cornerstone of my personal growth.

Living a Sedentary Lifestyle

A sedentary lifestyle crept up on me, especially with desk jobs and modern conveniences. Regular physical activity has boosted my energy levels, improved my health, and enhanced my overall well-being. Incorporating exercise into my routine has become essential.

Finding activities I enjoy has made staying active a rewarding part of my life. From hiking to yoga, these pursuits invigorate my body and mind. Embracing an active lifestyle has been a game-changer for my health.

Comparing Myself to Others

Social media and societal pressures often made me compare myself to others, fueling feelings of inadequacy. I’ve shifted my focus to self-improvement and personal growth, celebrating my achievements and setting my standards of success. This mindset change has been liberating.

Concentrating on my journey has increased my self-esteem and happiness. Each step forward is a victory in itself. Embracing my unique path has brought me a deeper sense of fulfillment.

Procrastinating on Health Check-ups

Ignoring routine health check-ups and screenings was a bad habit. In my 40s, I’ve realized the importance of proactive healthcare. Regular visits to the doctor help catch potential issues early and keep me informed about my health status.

Staying on top of my health has provided peace of mind and greater control. Preventive care is now a priority in my life. Knowing I’m taking steps to ensure my long-term well-being is reassuring.

Eating Unhealthy Foods

My younger self often opted for convenience over nutrition, indulging in unhealthy foods. Now, I’m more conscious of my diet, choosing wholesome, nutrient-rich foods that nourish my body and support long-term health. This dietary shift has been transformative.

Cooking at home and selecting fresh ingredients have become enjoyable habits. I feel more energetic and vibrant with every healthy meal. Prioritizing nutrition has positively impacted my overall lifestyle.

Clinging to Unfulfilling Relationships

Staying in unfulfilling relationships out of habit or fear of change was a familiar pattern. I’ve learned to recognize when a relationship no longer serves me and have the courage to let go, making room for more meaningful connections. It’s difficult, but with a bit of practice, you can learn to walk away from a broken relationship. Reaching my 40s has been a time of reflection and growth.

Care About Others’ Opinions

When we are young, all we want to do is to be accepted. This is why we give so much value to others’ opinions. This, however, will be detrimental in the long run. If you are an introvert, stop letting society convince you that there’s something wrong with spending weeks alone in your house. If this is what makes you happy, then do it! If people judge the way you look, then let them judge! They don’t have to wear your clothes, right? It’s none of their business. Instead of trying to fit in, celebrate what makes you unique.

Let Societal Norms Define Me

Societal pressure can affect us in so many ways. We should have kids, we should get married, we should look a certain way… The truth, however, is that you should question everything and never take things for granted. Just because everyone else is doing something doesn’t mean you should do the same. Always ask yourself whether something will bring more fulfillment into your life or if you’re just copying everyone else without thinking.

Constantly Check Social Media

I spent a lot of my 20s and 30s on social media platforms, mindlessly scrolling and posting pictures of my “ideal” life. Once I hit 40, I knew this had to stop. Not only is social media bad for our mental health, but also I was wasting a lot of time sitting around on my phone rather than actually living life. Plus, I want a little more privacy in my later years. Not everything I do needs to turn into an online, public post. Some memories are best kept to yourself.

Neglecting My Hobbies

We all have hobbies we neglect. Maybe you play the guitar, yet you’ve been stuck at the same level for years. You may love dancing but rarely get the time to practice. You may be a talented photographer but never go outside to practice your art. It’s time to stop this! We often think we will have time to spend on our hobbies when we retire, but we strongly believe that dedicating your time to these should be a priority at all ages.

Letting go of these 16 habits creates space for a healthier, happier, and more fulfilling life. What changes have you made in your journey?